It's common to avoid dating or going further in a relationship because of anxiety about physical intimacy. Fear of intimacy is a typical problem for those who want to form romantic or platonic connections, even if they perceive themselves to be sexually active.
It's a problem, indeed, but one that can be solved with effort. Here are some strategies to help you overcome your anxiety.
Set boundaries
You can set better limits for yourself and others if you take the time to examine your anxieties and figure out how to deal with them.
Boundaries are meant to help us feel protected and respected, which in turn can often make it easier to explore these issues, whether alone or with a partner.
Make your wants and requirements known.
It's important to do it in a secure environment, preferably before your boundaries are violated. Any relationship worth having would respect your space and help you face your concerns head-on. Disclose your worries and include your spouse in the discussion.
Solo exploration of intimacy
"Explore yourself before experimenting with a companion." "Discover what is comfy and what is not." "Allow oneself to experience positive emotions."
It's a problem, indeed, but one that can be solved with effort. Here are some strategies to help you overcome your anxiety.
Set boundaries
You can set better limits for yourself and others if you take the time to examine your anxieties and figure out how to deal with them.
Boundaries are meant to help us feel protected and respected, which in turn can often make it easier to explore these issues, whether alone or with a partner.
Make your wants and requirements known.
It's important to do it in a secure environment, preferably before your boundaries are violated. Any relationship worth having would respect your space and help you face your concerns head-on. Disclose your worries and include your spouse in the discussion.
Solo exploration of intimacy
"Explore yourself before experimenting with a companion." "Discover what is comfy and what is not." "Allow oneself to experience positive emotions."
Photo by alejandro penner: https://www.pexels.com/photo/woman-in-sitting-on-a-leather-couch-8979430/
